Forgiving is hard. Especially when we’ve been really wronged, hurt, or betrayed. And even more so when the hurt is inflicted by someone close to us.
But the only alternative to forgiveness is holding a grudge. And that’s a choice we can make. But holding a grudge consumes a lot of emotional energy. Anger and resentment are negative emotions that require constant fuelling. And 30 years of forgiveness science has identified a range of harmful long-term physiological and psychological effects that all of this negative emotional exertion can have.
When we forgive, we do not forget.
But when we are able to forgive, we unstick ourselves from the past; we release ourselves from anger and create room inside for peace.
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Great post 🙂
Forgiveness takes a lot of strength, especially when it comes to self forgiveness. Thanks for the post David. I just worked out how to leave a note!